Coffee with Ren: Exhaustion Edition (5/22/2025)
Well, friends. The Big Bullshit bill narrowly passed the House last night, which means off it goes to the Senate. Yesterday I was angry. Today I’m still angry, but I’m also exhausted, so that’ll be the tone of this morning’s article. Let’s grab our caffeine of choice, and get into it.
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Morning Affirmations:
I am so damn tired but I’m still standing, and that makes me powerful.
I refuse to shrink because this world can’t handle my fury in full.
I don’t owe anyone politeness while I’m bleeding from a thousand tiny cuts.
I’m allowed to be angry. I DESERVE to be angry. My rage is scared.
I’ve been carrying too much for too long. If I drop it now, that’s called survival.
I am not a machine. I’m a soul with limits, and I will protect them with fire.
If silence was strength, I’d be a goddamn warrior, but now I choose to be loud.
I’m done pretending I’m okay to make others comfortable.
I have every right to rest, even if the world keeps trying to take it from me.
I’m not weak for being exhausted. I’m unstoppable for continuing anyway.
Mental Checklist:
Have I eaten anything today?
Have I drank anything today?
Have I said “I love you” to myself today?
Have I taken deep breaths today?
Have I started my day off stressed, and what can I do to make sure it doesn’t color the rest of my day?
Today, we’re going to get a glass plate from the Dollar Tree and a plastic bag big enough to the plate to fit into. We’re going to write down everything we’re frustrated, angry, and pissed at. Every single thing. Write in on that plate with a Sharpie. When we’re done writing, we’re going to put it in the bag and smash that shit on the ground. We’re going to watch the plate break into pieces, and like good human beings, we’ll clean up any glass that escapes the bag.
This is something I’ve done multiple times (with no glass incidents!), and it’s SO helpful with anger. It’s a great way to get out your frustrations with the world, and I know we’re filled to the fucking brim with frustrations right now.
One little bonus addition today: I added in the option of becoming a paid subscriber today. I got multiple recommendations yesterday to add in a paid option, and I told myself I’d explore the possibility when I hit 100 subscribers, so here we are! It’s crazy to think I have over 100 people caring about what I write, and I’m so very grateful for all of you. It means the world to me, and I thank you deeply.
It is 100% an option, and it will not affect our morning or evening posts at ALL. Those will always remain free, because they are so necessary in this day and age. I will never create a paywall for these articles. I am adding in an afternoon article called Midday Muse, which will include things ranging from poetry, thoughts I have on news throughout the day, or random musings I have on various topics (and I have a lot of various topics). I will also be adding in a weekly Q&A session in a post! You can ask me anything, ranging from politics to opinions to questions about random things. Those will be our paid benefits, but like I said: Coffee and Tea with Ren will ALWAYS remain free.
You know the drill. I see you, I hear you, I love you. This administration will NOT break us. I’ll see you tonight for Tea with Ren 💚
Thank you for these. I read the affirmations out loud and they give me strength. I’m 39 and I am grateful for someone a generation behind me who is fighting so hard for freedom. Let’s stay fighting together.